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i am only happy and fun when I am DRUNK. what do i do?

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  1. Mel
    Member

    I'm a college student. growing up, i was a very happy child and was always fun to be around, popular, and funny. but some events happened in my early teen years that i feel really affected me. i started noticing that i was never feeling happy anymore and became really reserved and had a totally dull personality. i excelled academically and in sports, however, and ended up at a good college, where i have a high GPA and am involved in numerous extracurricular activities that allow me the opportunity to socialize with brilliant and accomplished people.

    however, it seems these people find me "shy" and that i "need to talk more" i have been told.

    i feel as if i am only fun when i am drunk. people tell me i am "a different person when i am drunk" and that i "am adorable when i am drunk" and that i am also "so funny when i am drunk."

    i become talkative, funny, the center of attention, and for once, i finally become happy... i have the feeling of happiness i used to have as a child that were somehow lost when the events during my early teens happened. i can't seem to find this happiness sober, and my personality when im sober is dull, boring, and uninterested. i feel as if i have nothing good to say when sober...and that i am such a boring person. ive been told i seem "snobby" because im quiet and ive been described as "timid." i hate it when people call me quiet and i take it as an insult. i don't know how to change. how can i become more likeable when sober? i want to be the person i am when i am drunk when i am sober. i feel as if my sober personality holds me back from a lot of opportunities in life. i feel i may have trust issues too..what do i do??? i dont even know whats wrong with me...

    Posted 2 years ago #

  2. Shortstuff13
    Member

    Best Answer

    Please find a different group of friends to hang out with. In doing so, all you need to do, is just be yourself. There's no need to get drunk, to have friends like you better or feel happy. Just be yourself & your true friends, won't try to change you in any way. If you feel that certain issues are keeping you from being totally happy within yourself, then it's best for you to get into counseling right away. A part of you sounds as though you're, your own worst enemy & it doesn't need to be that way. Once you truly accept yourself for who you are, others will too. The counseling will help you in so many ways. One of the issues you struggle with, you said, is trust. It's a big part of life & once you allow yourself to trust again, other issues may dissipate. Reach out for the help that is yours for the asking. You sound as though you lack self confidence & self esteem. Those two traits are very important in order to love yourself, before loving anyone else. Loving yourself is not being arrogant & conceited, so don't let others tell you that it is. Your doctor may know of someone who can help you. I wish you the best as you get the help you need, in order to be happy & at peace within. Take care of yourself, choose new friends to be with, & get some help. You'll see one day soon, that you can have fun, laugh, & be fun to be around, without being drunk. Being shy is not a crime & those who aren't comfortable around shy people, are the ones with the problem, not you.

    Posted 2 years ago #

  3. Angry Ki
    Member

    There's nothing wrong with you. You just need better friends, who don't put you down for being sober.

    Posted 2 years ago #

  4. JustCavalli
    Member

    you need to relax your body and mind. maybe try doing yoga?

    being drunk makes you more relaxed and less self-concious and less of a worrier.

    Posted 2 years ago #

  5. mankneejr
    Member

    If your drinking is messing up other parts of your life .........I would take a look at my drinking......true friends like you either way.

    Posted 2 years ago #

  6. Laurel
    Member

    alcohol can be such a crutch for people, you know, like you just cant be confident without it! you arent able to be who you want to be without help, first try some things like going to a party without drinking at all, see the people getting drunk around you and understand thats what you look like, see how you feel the next day...better right? but emotionally are you proud or ashamed or regretful? try telling a close friend how you feel, they should understand. Im sure you are a wonderful person sober, much brighter and more classy know that if you can focus now on more important things than you will appreciate it soooooo much later, where as the people that spend all there time drinking will not get nearly as far as you who understands more. good luck!

    Posted 2 years ago #

  7. Lily
    Member

    I don't drink myself, but I don't care when people drink.
    I notice that people change a lot after a drink, but not as much as you're talking about.

    Honestly I think you should try and get some good friends and try keeping a day all to yourself-- so you can paint your toes, clean your room, read a book, etc, just whatever you want to do to ease your stress.. this will help you clear your mind. I think you need to "find" yourself.

    If you're still not acting the same then I think that you may have a case of depression or social anxiety disorder.
    I'm not a doctor, so you probably want to be examined or whatever so they can prescribe what you need.

    good luck :)
    God Bless!!

    Posted 2 years ago #

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